As fans of Big Brother will know, housemate Daley Ojuederie was removed from the house yesterday after he was deemed to have been threatening and aggressive towards fellow housemate Hazel O’Sullivan.
Now, I have to say, when I first heard about this last night, I initially thought it was probably an overreaction brought about by the PC sensitivity that broadcasters are in constant fear of…
However, having now seen the video of the entire event, I agree that it was only right to remove Daley – though I don’t believe he intended Hazel any harm at all, but nonetheless that behaviour can’t be condoned – but I do think Hazel should’ve been taken out of the house too.
The reason being that it was she who initially instigated the whole sorry affair, and then, having been provocative in word and deed – to wit, she herself slapped Daley, pulled down his shorts and goaded him repeatedly – she cried victim.
Now surely, if she’d been made afraid of Daley’s behaviour at any point, she would, instead of continuing to goad him, have left the room or asked him to stop? But she didn’t, and as mentioned, continued to use provocative words and actions.
I’m not condoning Daley’s behaviour, but my point is simply this – Hazel was as much a factor in these events as he was, and should, I think, have been made to take as much responsibility for the outcome.
Now, I must just point out that these are my own personal views, not those of Unreality TV or its owners – as I expect some folks won’t like what I’m about to say – but something that angers me greatly, and which I consider to be a huge injustice in society in general, is that if a woman prompts, encourages or displays certain behaviour, in this case aggressive behaviour, she should not then claim to be an innocent victim, and should expect a backlash when it all hits the fan and her behaviour is reflected back at her by a man.
In this video, which details all the events that led to Daley being ejected from the house, you’ll see that Hazel goaded Daley repeatedly. And as mentioned above, she slapped him and pulled down his shorts…
Daley’s reaction was without question menacing at times, and though I don’t honestly think that in his head, it was anything other than “play fighting” – which is what he told BB it was – Hazel’s decision to go into the Diary Room and claim she felt intimidated and “cornered” by Daley was wholly unfair in my opinion. And again, the reason that I believe her claim wasn’t necessarily genuine is that she continued to provoke and goad him throughout. Would a frightened person do that?
Even during the moments after Daley was seen putting his hand on Hazel’s neck, she was smiling, and when he made his “I’ll finish you” remark, she reared up and said, “I’d finish you quicker” while still laughing. Again, she did not seem frightened.
It rather much reminded me of a time when I myself witnessed a woman repeatedly hitting a man, and when that man finally hit her back, she cried victim. The specific incident to which I refer was a drunken one, and the woman in question threw objects at her boyfriend, threw a drink over him, hit him in the face and body several times and drew blood with her nails. Eventually, to stop her escalating the violence, he grabbed her wrists, held them for about ten seconds, then slapped one wrist lightly.
The woman in question called the police and charged her boyfriend with assault. He was covered in scratches and bruises, she though had none.
I can practically hear some readers saying, “It’s never right for a man to hit a woman” and yes, of course that has validity, but so too does “A woman should never hit a man.”
We women expect, and in the main get, equality in this day and age, so why is it that it’s still – or at least, often – deemed acceptable for a woman to behave aggressively to a man, but a man is considered to be the one in the wrong if he behaves in that way back to a woman? No act of violence or aggression is right or acceptable, but for me, that should have the addendum ‘regardless of gender’.
Now of course, the situation with Daley and Hazel was not and is not that extreme, however, as BB chose to remove Daley then I think they should’ve removed Hazel too…
If it had been one of the male housemates who pulled down a female housemate’s shorts – knowing they were naked beneath them – and slapped their bottom, they would’ve been booted. I have no doubt of that.
But what say you? Just in case you missed the link above to the video, here it is again.
Here’s a look at the latest videos from the house…