David Walliams says “Graham Norton explained my sexuality” as he recalls his “humiliating” first sexual experience

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More and more is revealed about David Walliams in his upcoming biography “Camp David” (released October 11). Where David at first only wanted to reveal snippets from the book, the media is going all out now with the revelations of his painful life. The book looks to be more truthful and honest then any recent celebrity effort. David doesn’t seem to shy away from full gritty painful honesty and doesn’t gloss things over. He truly wants to explain who he is and why he is who he is.

Describing his first sexual experience, aged ten at Cubs and Sea Scouts, is described with this same honesty.

He enjoyed attending Cubs, where he had his first sexual experience, aged ten, when one of the boys invited him into his tent. This early experimentation went further when he joined the Sea Scouts where his group was run by an ex-merchant seaman.

‘Most of the games we played in the hall involved him chasing and spanking us,’ David recalls. ‘What happened at the Sea Scouts wasn’t sexual abuse as such, it all felt more innocent than that, but it was still very strange.’

He continues: ‘Of course we would fiddle with each other in the dark. One boy I developed a sustained attraction for, and we would often pair off.

‘After we were intimate he would be so full of anger at what he had done he would become violent with me. My whole experience of sex at this time can be summed up in one word. Shame.’

David became confused about his sexuality, while at the same time he was bullied for the exact same things he was confused about. At Reigate Grammar School, he was called ‘gay’ most days in the playground — and says that the name-calling, although cruel, was understandable because he was ‘inescapably effeminate’.

‘The way I ran, the way I threw a ball, the way I talked, the way I flicked my hair… was just like a girl. In my case, a big fat ugly girl.’

He hated the way he looked and spoke, and he saw his effeminacy as a problem. When he joined the Naval Cadets in the fourth form, the other boys called him Daphne.

‘’I've always been camp, I’ve always been drawn to playing Wonder Woman in the school playground. I’m not worried about it, it just seems other people are.’ Sometimes I read comments about myself complaining that my effeminacy is an act. It isn’t. I’m really camp and I always have been.’

Perhaps inevitably, he was cast in drag in a school play as England’s 17th-century Queen Henrietta Maria — wearing a wig and a dress. And this was a turning point, of sorts. For the way he fanned himself in the performance brought the house down.

‘I had generated laughter,’ he writes. ‘It was as beautiful as moondust. I knew what I wanted to do with my life, I wanted to make people laugh.’

David continued to be confused about his sexuality all through university. It wasn’t until 1999 it was apparently resolved, by Graham Norton.

Apparently the openly-gay TV presenter made things simple for David. According to David Graham said: “Sexuality is more emotional than physical. What matters is whose arms you want around you.”‘

‘”A woman’s,” I said. “You’re not gay then,” said Graham. ‘I never worried about it again.’

Last night David attended a Bond auction, saying: “My interview with Sir Roger Moore is in the new GQ. I was with the Roger tonight at the Bond auction at Christie’s. Over £1m was raised and Sir Roger was hilarious with his Daniel Craig mask.”

He then told Step’s Faye Tozer: “I think H would make a great Bond girl.”

One Response to “David Walliams says “Graham Norton explained my sexuality” as he recalls his “humiliating” first sexual experience”

  1. Kate Carr says:

    Fully identify with the whole grammar school bullying.