Celebrity Big Brother 2012: The Danica Thrall Debacle: Rant Part Deux with an uncharacteristically serious note
Earlier today, I wrote an unusally serious – I’m normally all about the fun side of telly – article defending Celebrity Big Brother housemate Danica Thrall against what I consider to be the extremely harsh reaction towards her both in the house, and outside of it.
However, judging from some of the comments we received here at Unreality about it – many of which were simply too vile to publish – and from messages I’ve received on Twitter, one thing has become very clear…
And that is that some people are holding Danica responsible for how other people – notably, men – treat her and react to her.
Among the comments on that article – that we were able to publish – one reader remarked that she felt that Danica should, “cover up a bit more and stop trying to be so sexy when they [Lorenzo and Mike The Sitch] are around.”
Now, frankly, this horrified me, especially as the remark came from a lady. For me, this is akin to the school of thought of people who – secretly or openly – blame the victims of rape for the attacks upon them if, for instance, they were wearing a short skirt and a low cut top when the attack happened…
His comment caused outrage, and rightly so. The subtext being words to the effect of, ‘Well if you hadn’t been walking home after a night out, this wouldn’t have happened to you, so it’s in part your fault.’
Now I don’t actually believe Eamonn thought through his comment, and I genuinely think it was made from the place of a concerned parent, but nonetheless, that is what he was in effect saying.
If any woman, old, young, thin, fat, ugly, beautiful or any of the above wanted to walk stark bo**ock naked down the high street at 3am, nobody has the right to assume she’s ‘asking for’ a sexual assault, and nobody has the right to commit one against her.
No woman is, or should be, responsible for how her appearance affects someone else. As another of our readers said of the Danica-Lorenzo-Mike issue, “If these boys don’t know flirting from a come on that is their problem.”
And she’s so right, it IS their problem; not Danica’s.
To hark back to our other lady reader, in addition to the comment about covering up, she added, “Check her twitter @DanicaOfficial she has a wishlist!!!!!!! And look at the cost of the things on there, I’m sorry but she is asking for these gifts not being given them out of surprise!!!!!!!”
And here is what I replied…
But the clue is in the word ‘Wish’. It’s a Wishlist, not an I’ll Send Someone Round To Kill You If You Don’t Buy This For Me list!
If some sad sack is stupid enough to spend his money in this manner, why the hell shouldn’t she accept it?
If I thought for a minute somebody might buy me things I’d like for not really any good reason at all, I too would set up a Wishlist!
Again, she’s not making these men spend their money. It’s their choice!
And why should she cover up a bit more? I imagine she works hard to keep her body in shape, so why should be expected to ‘hide’ herself under baggy clothes just in case some bloke wants her and can’t have her?!
Apropos of this ‘leading’ men on accusation that’s been leveled at Danica, fans of Big Brother will surely recall that in BB9, Craig Coates had a massive crush on Anthony Hutton. Craig was often in tears over it, and never more so than when Anthony snogged Makosi in the pool.
But during that series, did anyone, anywhere, suggest that Anthony was ‘leading’ Craig on and therefore wielding his sexual attractiveness as a weapon when he walked around without a top on? Should Anthony have worn baggy jumpers so he didn’t encourage Craig’s amorous feelings for him?
I certainly don’t recall it if they did, so why is it so wrong that Danica – who has NEVER been topless in the house – wears figure hugging lycra?
Likewise, when people have said that Danica has too much physical contact with the boys in the house, did anybody ever suggest that Anthony shouldn’t hug Craig because he knew he ‘liked’ him? Or that he shouldn’t sit talking to Craig, or he shouldn’t sit on Craig’s bed?
No, they did not.
So yet again, what exactly has Danica done that’s so terrible in that house?
I’ll tell you what she’s done – nothing. She is being held responsible for how other people perceive her, and it’s not just unfair, it’s wrong, morally reprehensible and dangerous.
And what has she done outside of the house that’s so terrible?
She’s set up a website and a Wishlist on Amazon. Men who visit her website can, if they want to, buy her things that are on her list. What she does in exchange I can’t remark upon because I simply don’t know. But the fact remains, nobody forces these men to do a damn thing.
The fact is, I’d never even heard of Danica before she went into the house, but let me reiterate, whatever she does, nobody – and especially not Danica – is forcing the men who visit her site to buy her anything.
She isn’t “robbing old men” as one social networking site user put it. Those men, young or old are voluntarily buying her things.
Does that make her a bad person for accepting them? No, I don’t believe it does. It makes them d***heads, who are doubtless motivated by the head that doesn’t sit on top of their necks, but Danica isn’t making them to do anything.
Now, I must apologise for the length of this piece but it truly shocks me that in this day and age, there are still people around who blame a woman for being beautiful; who blame her for being attractive to men and who blame her for how those men respond to her.
And outside of a culture or religion which dictates that women should not be seen, and hence must cover themselves almost entirely, nobody has any right to attach any responsibility on any woman for how other people react to her because she’s pretty.
It’s frankly sickening, because as often happens with Big Brother, the microcosm world of the house often reflects the greater world view outside, and evidently, we as a society – or rather, some of us – continue to hold a woman responsible for how a man acts towards her.
Maybe she just needs a backhander and to get back in the kitchen ‘til she’s required in the bedroom.
Thank you if you’ve made it this far, and I would very much like to hear your thoughts on the subject.
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