Big Brother 2012: Is Deana Uppal being bullied? Your verdict please
As fans of Big Brother will know, there are two issues that are guaranteed to cause a ruckus both within and outside the BB house, and they are allegations of racism and/or bullying…
And right now, there’s a rather big question mark hanging over the house with regard to what some claim is the blatant bullying of housemate Deana Uppal.
As we saw in last night’s highlights show, the fact that many of the housemates are alienating and isolating Deana hasn’t gone unnoticed by the show’s producers, who asked Arron to put himself in her shoes and consider what it must be like to be ignored and to “have no friends in the house.”
He conceded that, with regard to Deana especially, he would try to make more of an effort to get on with her and to include her rather than shun her…
The furious Irishman said of her, “Get your epilator and stick it up your arse.
“Stick your hairbrush up yer f***ing m***e, stupid basta*d. F***ing piece of s**t.”
BB called Conor to the Diary Room and outlined the rules regarding unacceptable behaviour, which he agreed his outburst had been, and he added that he didn’t mean what he’d said and was simply angry.
However, we also saw Caroline and Becky playing a “prank” on Deana by yet again hiding her epilator. Evidently, it’s an item that’s important to Deana, and though Caroline claimed that hiding it wasn’t “a personal attack” – which she believed putting it among tins of corned beef would be, presumably because Deana doesn’t like corned beef – but thought it would be “hilarious” to hide it in the fruit bowl.
Now of course, the issue there is that in the microcosm world that is the BB house – where all things shrink from a global affair to the immediate surrounds and the people within it – small gestures, positive or negative, become disproportionately significant…
For me, I personally consider that type of behaviour – the ‘Heathers’ bitchy girl gang antics – more likely to be filed under the title of Bullying than Conor’s angry words.
Yes of course, he was wholly wrong to say what he did, and it was a ludicrously OTT reaction to Deana’s – albeit ridiculous – gagging on ham and hot sauce during the eating task, but he didn’t make threats directly to Deana, and has simply avoided her.
Again, while I think it must be extraordinarily hard and stressful to be such an outcast in such an environment as the BB house, I still consider that behaviour like that of Caroline and Becky in hiding things that matter to Deana is a more direct but subtle form of bullying, because it’s psychological…
It’s girls ganging up on another girl to laugh at their expense, and in my experience, that’s far more damaging to a person than someone venting and ranting to others while not doing anything negative or violent directly towards the person in question.
I must stress I’m not condoning what Conor said, it was clearly very stupid and very wrong, but it was evident, even as he was saying it, that it was only venting. Likewise with Arron when, during the Confusing Cuisine task, he told a gagging Deana, “It’s time for your Oscar, the cameras are rolling!”
Again, of course it’s not nice to say things like that, but I have to say, I could see his point. After all, she only had to eat tinned ham and hot sauce, which was a total nothingness compared to eating a 100 year old fermented egg or dog food pie.
Caroline on the other hand repeatedly said Deana’s reaction was “stupid” which coming from a girl who went into hysterics over consuming a fish eye was a bit rich.
So, in a nutshell, my opinion of what’s going on in the house right now is that Deana is being bullied, but not by Conor or Arron. I think the more harmful issue is what the girls are doing to her.
Again, I don’t condone Conor or Arron’s behaviour towards Deana, but I do think that their reaction would have been exactly the same if it was anyone else who’d failed so spectacularly in the task, so in that regard, I don’t think their reactions were actually a personal attack on Deana at all…
I think they’d have reacted in exactly the same way if any one of the housemates had gagged and thrown up when what they were asked to eat was perhaps not nice, but not ordinarily considered inedible.
But I’d like to know your opinion; is Deana being bullied? And if so, please let us know who you think are the people who are bullying her, and what they’ve done that smacked of the B word?
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